The following ground rules exist to keep ADAPS a safe, respectful, and supportive space for everyone involved. All participants are expected to agree to and follow these rules.

1. Confidentiality

What is shared in ADAPS stays in ADAPS.

• Do not record sessions

• Do not take screenshots

• Do not share personal information outside the group

Confidentiality may only be broken if there is serious concern about safety.

2. Respectful Communication

• Speak from your own experience (use "I" statements)

• Allow others to speak without interruption

• Listen with respect, even when experiences differ

Abusive, threatening, or hateful language will not be tolerated.

3. No Advice Unless Requested

ADAPS is about listening and shared experience.

• Do not give advice unless someone clearly asks for it

• Avoid telling others what they "should" do

4. No Legal or Court Strategy Discussions

• ADAPS does not provide legal advice

• Do not encourage breaching court orders

• Avoid detailed discussion of ongoing legal cases

The focus is on emotional wellbeing, not case management.

5. Focus on Self, Not Blame

• Speak about how situations affect you

• Avoid attacking or blaming ex-partners, professionals, or institutions

Strong emotions are valid; hostility and incitement are not.

6. Safety First

• Any talk of violence, harm, or intimidation is not allowed

• If you are feeling overwhelmed, you are encouraged to seek support outside the group

Facilitators may pause or stop a session if safety becomes a concern.

7. Facilitator Role

Facilitators are there to:

• Hold the space

• Maintain balance and safety

• Uphold these ground rules

They are not acting as therapists, solicitors, or crisis professionals.

8. Participation

• You are not required to speak

• You may step away if needed

• Regular attendance is encouraged but not mandatory

By taking part in ADAPS, you agree to respect these ground rules for the benefit of yourself and others.